“It’s a policy that allows you to be relieved when everything is in control”
Social expectations to make us a success, make it productive and in a world where everything is gradually managed, Many times we fall into the trap that believes that everything must be under control. However, living with that psychology becomes a quiet and laborious burden.
Instead of, When we stop trying to control everything, something interesting happens: we start living with more light. And not to be irresponsible or responsible for releasing that need, This means that there are things that do not rely on us. There are processes that need time, people who make their own decisions or situations cannot be cannot.
“Can I tell you a secret that psychologists know?”
In this case, Olvaro BilbaoExpert in Child Neuromycology, Alert about the high need of the emotional hazards and control of perfection. In a recent video he shared in Tictok, Bilbao He started a compelling reflection on mental health and offspring: Excessive anxiety for siege and objects is a sign of emotional fragility More than a virtue.
“Can I tell you a secret that psychologists know? A lot of fragile psychological health symptom of worrying about things. People with good mental health care about people more than things“, Begins by verifying the neuro psychologist.
“This is a approach to allow you to get relief when it is just in control of everything.”
His reflection is very simple, but powerful: a boy named Hugo wet the table with paint. So, the general reaction of the adult can lead to expert gaze BilbaoWHO It emphasizes that it is the “obsessive feature” that needs to be maintained in control, which hides deep insecurities.
“Don’t enjoy when everything is controlled. This is just a mechanism, which allows you to get relief when everything is in control. Someone in your family has become very nervous with disorder. And the order makes you feel safe. Does it make sense to you? “He explained.
“That stain on the table will be a great opportunity …”
In this way, the neuro psychologist proposed to change the perspective: Change those moments of disorder or “imperfection” on the possibilities of educating with empathy and calm. “Sitting with your child on the table and teaching him that you can enjoy life, even when something is not perfect,” he said.
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At the same time, Bilbao He commented that children should be taught that everything needs to be loved is to teach children, one of the pillars of healthy breeding. “And don’t forget it He teaches him that he can repair his mistakes, that he does not have to control everything and, most importantly, he is more important to you than that table.“He ended up.
