People with narcissistic symptoms often have an exaggeration of their talents, achievements and importance in the world. They are sensitive to criticism, and it is difficult for them to have any sympathy or praise to others, and the psychiatrist Dr. Course S. Warren said in a report for the CNBC network.
According to the doctor, this selfish focus on their own needs is usually the cost of everyone around them, which makes communication difficult with them. You can reject, criticize or ignore.
As a psychologist at Harvard University, Warren found that she had seven phrases from people with high drug qualities:
1. “You are lucky because I care about you.”
Narcisists look better than everyone else. They believe that others are thankful for their existence in their orbit because they are all incomplete compared to them.
Similar phrases:
“You don’t deserve me.”
“You should feel comfortable because you don’t exclude yourself from my life.”
2. “You’re merciful.”
Most narcisists are suffering a long -term depression towards others. In response, they can be bothered by them and the worst humiliation.
Similar phrases:
“You really failed.”
“No one else would like to be with you.”
3. “You want me.”
Narcisists often resort to manipulation techniques such as threat or intimidation to engage in others in contact, as they feel more safe to maintain control, without sharing energy.
Similar phrases:
“Be careful, or you will push me away.”
“If you oppose me I will destroy you and don’t want anyone to link you.”
4. “It is wrong to feel it.”
It is difficult to sympathize with others with narcissistic symptoms. As a result, they rarely see the other party in a relationship as an independent person with his thoughts, feelings and his own experiences.
Similar phrases:
“My feelings are more important.”
“I will usually be right.”
5. “Everyone is stupid.”
Narcisists feel strongly to exceed others. One way to achieve this is to reduce others. They make negative comments about everyone – friends, family or anonymous acquaintances – to show themselves that they are unique and unique personality.
Similar phrases:
“Your friend is weak. Why do you come with him?»
“There’s nothing to give me these people.”
6. “My feelings are your fault.”
When the narcissist was upset, he blamed others for his feelings instead of recognizing his role in the situation. Instead of keeping himself accountable, he complains about the injustice of others.
Similar phrases:
“If you have asked for you, I will not be so upset now.”
“If you don’t get anger over me I will cry!”
7. “I don’t have time for this.”
People with narcissistic tendencies are the governance of stopping communication to show their anger. Pretend that they are not affected when they are being treated quietly.
Similar phrases:
“I’m fine. What do you talk about?»
Not to say at all.
How do you respond?
The best way to respond to a narcissist is not to respond at all. Stop for a moment, but do not leave the conversation completely. Do not cry or take a defensive position.
After taking a deep breath, you can say this:
“I need to think about this before I respond. So I need a minute.” It gives you time to collect your thoughts and observe your feelings. Most importantly, you will reduce your word, you regret later.
Then, place the clear boundaries. Here are some examples of:
“I understand you, but I don’t agree with you.”
Thank you for sharing your perspective. When you are ready to listen to my perspective, I can share it. ”
“I feel that you have a lot of feelings right now. I am here to listen to you if I want, but if you cut my affairs, or intentionally try to harm me, I will go away, because it is not healthy.”
“I want you to know that I will see you, and I have heard your viewpoint. I have a different perspective, and it’s common for me.”
Remember, while the narcissist continues to communicate in harmful ways, his words only affect you if you allow him.
The most common methods of communication with narcissism are manipulation and control. This is a reflection of narcissists, how they face the world, not your reflection and your values.
