The “toxic” phrase that can destroy your relationship, according to a psychologist
Discussions are inevitable in husbands, but depending on what we say about it, we can put the relationship to survive. It is what carries Mark TraffrozA psychologist specialized in Relationships of a couple.
As mentioned in an article for CNBCThis American expert, a graduate from the University of Cornell, explains that “couples come to consult a belief that their problem is due to repeated battles or discussions. But when investigating more, we often find the same reason: What they say in their discussions. “
“There is a phrase that I saw arises in these exchanges more harmful than you think: “Why can’t it be more like (the name of the other person)?”Dice.
“If you use this toxic phrase, Your relationship is in troubleAs the psychologist says, who explains this, “at first glance, it may seem ignored or sighs from frustration in the middle of the discussion. “
“What husbands do not realize is that the person appointed is not related, whether previously, a friend of the best friend or even” as you were before. “The real message will always be the same: “You are not enough, and another person, anyone“I can be my best partner,” says Trips.
The expert argues that “over time, this type of comparison can generate insecurity that cannot be repaired. Instead of feeling love who is, The person who suffers from this will start questioning its value I really wonder if it is up to expectations. “
How do you treat that? “Instead of referring to another person as a model, Focus your attention on yourself. What do you really ask? And why do you fear that you ask her publicly? Tarfars says.
“If you are astonished by saying, for example, why can’t you be more similar to men? Stay united And with the feet on the ground in difficult times. “
Traves asserts that “these versions depend on your own experience, Not in the behavior of another person. This makes them an invitation to call, rather than a widespread accusation of failure. “
“Relationships require behavior in I loved us as real human beingsNon -dispensed, not comparisons with another person. Likewise, they ask the courage to speak publicly, as well as the confidence that will be received with respect, “
