Punishment of the child psychologically confused and weakens his personality …
33-year-old Amman-Sadan has always chosen the punishment as a means of dealing with any misconduct released by his eight-year-old daughter, Lion, because he believed that the sentence was a means of correction and preventing the error.
But the right opposite that happened, he said; As she realizes that her child has continued to repeat the same actions, the reason behind these behavior is the attempt to attract attention to her brothers.
Satson explains that the punishment for his daughter has often lost the things he wants, but this time it does not prevent the error. Therefore, she decided to change her way, so she started talking to her, and Lian began to understand her intentions to find out that she needed to talk to her mother and feel near her. If she had sought the conversation from the beginning, Shatson acknowledged that her daughter would not have repeated the same behavior and referred to the importance of clarifying the child’s error before seeking the punishment.
When 36 -year -old Um Ahmed, when his ten -year -old son Ahmed had misbehaved, he explained to him that he was wrong at the beginning, and she sits with him to talk about what happened and explain to him the consequences.
Since he is still in a learning phase, he believes that the child needs someone to understand and explain his actions, and you have to guide him to distinguish him with someone to guide him. This approach helped to create a strong and conscious personality that can discriminate against her child, which provided him with good education and necessary care.
In childhood, children make many mistakes, often the first reaction of some families screams, followed by a punishment for not thinking about the cause of the child’s behavior.
Although the error must be clarified and defined, this action is not from some families, so they choose the punishment as a way to prevent misconduct. Penalting methods differ between prevention and stricture, and new punishments associated with technology have spread in recent years, such as snatching the child from watching TV or using his tablet.
Sound education is to clarify the error before the child’s punishment, to distinguish the correct and mistakes, and to obtain positive actions. Many mistakes make by children because they do not realize that they are a mistake from the ground that they have done.
Comparisons are not accurate
For his part, the academic expert Dr. Aish Navisa shows that this issue is related to the culture of education, because we often believe that the ones that have been raised are correct. That is why we use phrases such as “we were like this” or “we were raised in this way”, which are not accurate, especially with different times and circumstances where parents lived in comparison compared to children.
Navisa explains that the nature of the culture we are raised and transformed to our children is a culture that does not allow the child to be mistaken or learned from his mistake, but rather the “healthy behavior” from the beginning, as his parents are raised, refers to the education system that depends on the blind heritage.
This implies that the child is naturally, it is not known whether his behavior is correct or wrong, so parents and family need to play the role of the guide that lead the child, and introduce him to acceptable and unacceptable behavior. This issue is associated with the moral behavior of the child, that is, according to the principle of “behavior theory” based on the effort and error, we must explain to him what to do, what to do, what to do and avoid.
Adhered to the role of care, not education
In this way, the child has the ability to control his behavior, and can be harmful or beneficial for him. But what’s going on, according to Navisa, we usually seek the punishment of the child’s personality, such as the use of a pulse or deficiency. We are a “second alternative” for him, which is a punishment instead of “first alternative”, which is the best education.
“Unfortunately, we are taking care of education, and when the child makes a mistake, he immediately punished him, because we confuse education and care,” Navisa added, “Many families provide care for their children, but they do not provide their education.
To find out why this behavior is a mistake, Navisa confirms that when the child makes a mistake, he should be explained to him. Children are intelligent, we must be interested in persuading them, and as a video showing the consequences of this behavior, we can use these many ways, because the child learns through intelligence. It also refers to the “multiple intelligence theory” that ensures that every child has a different learning way.
When he feels love, he emphasizes that he is not horrible, but he believes in the guidance of the child. There is a big difference between changing behavior by tenderness, which improves and strengthens the personality of the child, and can weaken his personality and affect him in the future.
The punishment and loss of self -confidence
Navisa says that the impact of the punishment on the child’s personality is excellent, he becomes an aggressive person and always explains the behavior, and he does not believe in the people around him, instead of building a person with a positive behavior and direction.
Therefore, according to Navisa, it is normal for this child to feel aggressive, and he cannot face any problems he faces in his life, because the confidence of himself is shaken and is always afraid to present any work, with a proper and uncontrollable personality between the right and bug, because the family must accept the negative way.
On the other hand, Navisa shows that the use of technical tools such as the iPad should be marked, and it can be used during the study, the digital devices have been lost and the alarm about learning when using this punishment.
Its interaction with the nature and growth phase of the penalty
On the side of the psychology, the specialist Basil al -Hamad, the nature of the punishment and the condition of the child’s passing, can have positive or negative psychological effects, so if the sentence is proportional to the size of the error, the child can feel its meaning, and the punishment is fair among the brothers and contributes to the child’s behavior.
But if the punishment is exaggerated, unexpected, unexpected, and is not proportional to the child’s age, or if it has been beaten or insulted, it will certainly have a negative psychological impact that can be extended for many years.
Al -Hamad explains that various educational characters play an important role in designing the child’s personality. As it happens in many families, dealing with the child is contrary to grief and softening, the child may create a turbulent, irreversible person, and this mood is one of the worst forms of parental education.
Punishment for the needs of the child
According to fame, two types of sentence; One is the phenomenon of a penalty, and acceptable penalties, and the incidence of acceptance of the child’s needs and his desires and his desires and his desires, or an additional job, and acceptable penalties, may be a relevant way to refuse technology, and it can be suitable for the good behavior of the child, so it helps with the specific behavior of the child, and therefore the child’s age is not suitable for the age of the child.
The right behavior is the right behavior when making mistakes, there is a certain system in the house, what the child should do, what he should avoid from behavior, and when discussing the child about misbehavior and behavior, showing his reasons, why he did this behavior, and he helps to know the behavior and discuss the effects of action.
